Kumar
and Ramya are cousins. Kumar was a very shot tempered boy and used to fight
with his elder cousin sister. Kumar used to fight with anyone irrespective of
their age. On the contrary, Ramya always felt her family members did not chide him
even when he behaved in a bad manner. She did not like it and felt she never
got support from her family. Once, Kumar
commented on the dressing sense of his elder sister and she did not like it.
She felt that he should be chided by her mom but, her mom did not do so. She
told him to get out of her house and it was none of his business to comment on
her dressing style. Kumar always believed his arguments were right and did not
agree with her view. They get into a heated argument as expected.
Main
problem is that they try to dominate each other. Though they are a part of the
same family they do not understand each other. Furthermore, they have their own
justifications for their actions. Kumar tries to be possessive and always wants
his decision to be the final one. Kumar may think that the Ramya being the
elder one should adjust. Ramya was assertive and wanted her younger cousin
brother to understand the difference between right and wrong. Though being
elder than Kumar she was not able to control her temperament. The tone of their
voices was not proper as they were angry. Interpersonal conflict arises as they
share different views.
What do you think would be the right approach that should be
taken in order to resolve the conflict?
I assume both Kumar and Ramya are in their childhood. If this is the case, I think it is sort of natural for some children to be bash and arrogant. Kumar, form your description, seems to be rather bashful in his approach towards his family members. Here, I think i might side with Ramya as she only retaliated when she had been pushed to the limit. Given Kumar's attitude, Ramya's outburst seems understandable. However, if Kumar is a lot younger than Ramya, she should be mature enough to not take his slights to heart.
ReplyDeleteHey Sudarsan,
ReplyDeleteEventhough Ramya's intentions are good and she is probably the wiser one, it is difficult to solve the problem when both of them have huge egos with no signs of giving in to each other. It is not possible to have an amicable relationship when there is no empathy on both sides. I guess that may come with age.
Plus, Ramya has no moral authority over Kumar being only the cousin. So it is understandable that Kumar does not listen to her especially when his elders condone his actions. Hence, the best solution i believe will be to have his parents intervening and drive some sense into him, so that he might see some light in Ramya's intentions.